Are you discreet about your expenditures in your relationship? Do you find yourself in disagreement with your partner regarding financial matters?
Within the context of couples counseling in Woodland Hills, judgments and criticisms often emerge concerning each other’s spending behaviors. A common scenario involves one partner prioritizing financial security and advocating for budgeting, while the other seeks to embrace life fully, indulging in experiences and material possessions. Additional points of contention may arise concerning discretionary spending on items such as alcohol or adult toys. In an attempt to avoid confrontation or criticism, individuals may choose to conceal their expenses.
In the realm of couples therapy, divergent spending patterns frequently surface, rooted in one’s upbringing and personal perspectives on money. When partners hold disparate views on financial matters, it is not uncommon for one party to perceive the other as financially irresponsible, or conversely, overly frugal.
Feelings of shame often accompany challenges related to budgeting inadequacies and maintaining minimal balances in bank accounts. The secrecy surrounding expenditures can be perceived as a breach of trust, leading some individuals to categorize it as a form of betrayal or financial infidelity, akin to cheating.
I have addressed issues surrounding a partner’s guilt and shame associated with spending habits and the frustration with not being able to control themselves. Moreover, I have encountered instances where resentment arises towards a partner who establishes financial boundaries and limits in pursuit of long-term security and retirement planning, mostly because it affects experiences and outings.
Central to fruitful financial discussions is the ability to empathize and understand each other’s perspectives. Recognizing that individual beliefs about savings and spending may differ, it is essential to negotiate and reach an agreement that aligns with both partners’ comfort levels and is conducive to a fair and mutually satisfying spending plan for the relationship.
Anita Avedian, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). Anita Avedian, LMFT, is the President of Avedian Counseling Center, located in Sherman Oaks, Woodland Hills, and Glendale. She is very passionate about helping couples rebuild their relationship and to improve their intimacy, trust, and communication. With 25 years of therapy experience, including working with couples and individuals, Anita is seasoned in her work. Contact Avedian Counseling Center to learn more about our couple’s therapy and relationship support at (818) 383-1399. https://avediancounselingcenter.com/
